Trying to figure out where to elope in the U.S.? Whether you’re drawn to mountains, deserts, or city vibes, this country offers a vast range of destinations to make it happen. But, there’s an extra layer here for us queer folks that goes beyond beautiful landscapes: While we love a good view, it’s also about finding a place that feels safe, affirming, and aligned with who we are.

In this guide, I’m sharing some of the top LGBTQ+-friendly states in the USA to consider for your elopement destination. Plus, I’ll give you tips to help you choose the right spot and travel confidently.

What Makes a U.S. Destination LGBTQ+-Friendly and Affirming?

When we talk about LGBTQ+-friendly elopement destinations in the U.S., we’re talking about more than just the legalities (though that matters too). It’s about how a place makes you feel—safe, celebrated, and like you don’t have to shrink any part of yourself to feel comfortable.

Here are a few things that can make a destination feel more affirming for queer couples:

• Marriage equality and other legal protections for LGBTQ+ folks
• Strong nondiscrimination laws in areas like employment, housing, and public accommodations
• Supportive local communities, including visible queer culture, events, and spaces
• Inclusive and welcoming attitudes, especially in day-to-day interactions
• The ability to exist openly without needing to constantly assess your safety

Even in progressive states, experiences can differ depending on the region—cities often feel more affirming than rural areas, for example. On the other hand, even in more conservative states, there are areas where it can feel safe and accepting for queer folks. So while this guide highlights the most LGBTQ+-friendly spots based on real policy scores and social attitudes, it’s always worth doing a bit of your own research based on what’s most important to you.

Can You Get Married Anywhere in the United States?

Just so we’re all clear: LGBTQ+ marriage is legal in the United States at the federal level. This means that you can marry who you want to marry and be protected across the country.

In most cases, queer folks can get married anywhere in the U.S. It’s just a matter of choosing between having a symbolic elopement or a legally binding elopement. A symbolic ceremony allows you to exchange your vows without the hassle of legal paperwork (you deal with the legalities before or after your elopement in your home state). With a legal ceremony, on the other hand, there are some important details to consider:

Legal Marriage in the U.S. for American Citizens

For U.S. citizens, other marriage laws are determined by individual states. Fortunately, there’s good news: you don’t have to marry in your home state. Thanks to the Full Faith and Credit Clause of the U.S. Constitution, marriages performed in one state are recognized in all other states. So, if you’re a resident of Minnesota but want to elope in Oregon, your marriage is legally valid across the country.

Key Legal Steps for Making Your Marriage Legal:

1. Obtain a Marriage License: You and your partner must apply for a marriage license from a county clerk’s office. Requirements vary by state and county, but generally, you’ll need to provide valid identification (like a passport or driver’s license), and there may be a fee involved.
2. Waiting Period: Some states have a mandatory waiting period between applying for and receiving your marriage license. For example, New York requires a 24-hour waiting period after obtaining the license before the ceremony can take place.
3. Officiant and Witnesses: Most states (unless they allow for self-solemnization) require the presence of an officiant (such as a judge, religious leader, or authorized officiant) to conduct the ceremony. Additionally, some states require one or two witnesses to be present and sign the marriage license.
4. Return the Marriage License: After the ceremony, the officiant and witnesses (if applicable) sign the marriage license. It must then be returned to the county clerk’s office, where it was issued to be officially recorded.

Legal Marriage in the U.S. for Non-U.S. Citizens

Non-U.S. citizens can also get married in the U.S., but there are additional considerations:

1. Visa Requirements: If you’re entering the U.S. specifically to get married, you may need a visa. A B-2 tourist visa is commonly used for this purpose. However, it’s crucial to demonstrate to U.S. immigration officials that your primary intent is tourism and not to circumvent immigration laws. 
2. Marriage License Application: Similar to U.S. citizens, non-citizens must apply for a marriage license in person at a county clerk’s office. You’ll need to provide valid identification, such as a passport. Some counties may have additional requirements for non-citizens, so it’s advisable to check with the local clerk’s office beforehand.
3. Marriage Recognition: A marriage performed in the U.S. is legally recognized in all U.S. states. However, whether it’s recognized in your home country depends on that country’s laws. It’s important to check with your country’s embassy or consulate to understand the recognition and any additional steps needed.
4. Post-Marriage Considerations: If you’re marrying a U.S. citizen and wish to live in the U.S. permanently, you may be eligible to apply for a green card (permanent residency). The process involves submitting various forms and undergoing interviews with U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS). Consulting with an immigration attorney can help navigate this process.

Important Note: If you decide to get married in the U.S. for specific immigration reasons, please be sure to involve a good immigration lawyer in your final decisions. It’s no secret that the country is rocky when it comes to immigration policy, and I just want to make sure you and your partner have someone in your corner who knows all the angles so you can make a decision that is best for you.

Read More: LGBTQ+ Elopements: Legal Considerations

Most LGBTQ+-Friendly States in the USA for Elopements

The list I put together is based on real, up-to-date data from Equaldex, a platform that tracks LGBTQIA+ rights around the world. Each state is ranked using three key metrics:

• Equality Index (EI): This is the overall score that reflects how LGBTQ+-friendly a place is based on laws, protections, and public opinion.
• Legal Index (LI): This measures legal protections for queer folks, like anti-discrimination laws, marriage equality, adoption rights, gender marker changes, and more.
• Public Opinion Index (POI): This captures how the general population in each state feels about LGBTQ+ people, based on surveys and cultural data.

The higher the score, the more affirming the environment. And, of course, as I mentioned before, just because a place has a high score, it doesn’t mean you can be guaranteed 100% safety and comfort. The same is also true for lower-ranking states: Just because they rank low, it doesn’t mean there aren’t places where you can still feel comfortable and celebrated.

1. Massachusetts

Massachusetts has been showing up for queer couples for decades. In fact, it was the first U.S. state to legalize same-sex marriage way back in 2004. So it’s no surprise it ranks high across the board today. From strong legal protections to high public support, this is a state where LGBTQ+ couples can elope and feel both legally secure and socially embraced.

This state is woven with LGBTQ+ history. It’s home to some of the country’s most established queer advocacy organizations and inclusive policies. The legal side is solid, with protections around marriage, healthcare, adoption, gender identity, and more. But it’s the overall culture that makes it especially welcoming. From the inclusivity in Boston’s neighborhoods to the artsy, queer-friendly energy of small towns like Northampton and Provincetown, it’s clear this state celebrates us with open arms.

What it offers for your elopement: You’ve got everything from coastlines and lighthouses to wooded trails, cozy seaside towns, and cobblestone streets. Cape Cod offers that salty air and beach vibe, while the Berkshires bring you rolling hills and forests. Even Boston, with its blend of old charm and modern architecture, can be the perfect backdrop for a city elopement with character.

2. Washington State

Washington consistently ranks as one of the most LGBTQ+-affirming states in the U.S., and it’s easy to see why. It was one of the early adopters of marriage equality, and its laws protect against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in areas like housing, employment, and public services. Cities like Seattle and Olympia have well-established queer communities, and even smaller towns tend to lean progressive and inclusive. You’ll also find a growing number of queer-owned businesses, LGBTQ+ support organizations, and welcoming vendors throughout the state.

What it offers for your elopement: If your dream elopement includes nature in various forms (forests, coastlines, mountains, and waterfalls), Washington delivers. Even if you prefer more urban surroundings, places like Seattle are perfect: Right near the ocean while also in the center of a thriving arts scene.

Bonus: This is actually where I’m eloping, so as your photographer, I can share all the good spots with you!

Read More: The Ultimate Guide to PNW Elopements

3. New Hampshire

New Hampshire might fly under the radar when it comes to elopement destinations, but it truly has a lot to offer. It was also one of the earlier states to legalize same-sex marriage (in 2010), and its anti-discrimination laws cover both sexual orientation and gender identity. It’s also worth noting that public opinion continues to trend positively, especially among younger generations and in more populated areas like Concord and Portsmouth.

What it offers for your elopement: New Hampshire is basically a postcard, especially in the fall. If you’re into vibrant foliage, quiet lakes, or mountains, this is your place. The White Mountains are perfect for adventurous elopements with beautiful views, while the Lakes Region offers waterside spots with cozy, small-town charm. In the southern part of the state, you’ll find historic architecture, beautiful hills, and quintessential New England scenery. It’s also a state that feels relaxed and uncrowded, ideal if you want an elopement that feels more intimate.

4. Vermont

Vermont has a long-standing reputation as one of the most LGBTQ+-affirming places in the U.S. It’s progressive, peaceful, and full of good vibes—the kind of place where small-town warmth meets big-hearted values.  It was the first state to introduce civil unions for same-sex couples way back in 2000 and followed that up with full marriage equality in 2009, before the federal ruling. Its anti-discrimination protections are comprehensive and inclusive of gender identity, and public support for LGBTQ+ rights remains strong. 

The state’s culture tends to be open-minded and community-focused, especially in places like Burlington, Montpelier, and Brattleboro, which all have visible and active queer communities.

What it offers for your elopement: Vermont feels a bit like stepping into a storybook. Think green hills, history, and small towns. It’s especially pretty in the fall. In the warmer months, you can enjoy the wildflowers, peaceful lakes, and forest trails. In the winter, you’ll also get snow-covered mountains, which is great if you and your partner love the idea of a chillier elopement.

5. Rhode Island

Rhode Island may be the smallest state in the U.S., but when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights and inclusivity, it punches way above its weight. With strong legal protections and a solidly supportive public, it’s a sweet little gem for queer couples looking for a beautiful, laid-back place to elope.

Rhode Island legalized same-sex marriage in 2013 and has a full slate of legal protections for LGBTQ+ folks, including anti-discrimination laws that cover employment, housing, and public services. Public opinion skews affirming, especially in urban areas like Providence, which has a lively and visible queer community.

What it offers for your elopement: Rhode Island offers that perfect blend of coastal and historic beauty. The coastline stretches for miles with rocky shores, sandy beaches, and classic lighthouses—basically everything you’d want for a seaside elopement. Newport is especially popular for its oceanfront cliffs and Gilded Age mansions, while Providence gives you cool artsy city vibes with cobblestone streets and river views. Because of its size, you don’t have to travel far to find the right setting!

6. Connecticut

They legalized same-sex marriage back in 2008, and since then, Connecticut has built on that foundation with solid anti-discrimination laws and an openly supportive culture. Cities like Hartford and New Haven have thriving queer communities and an easy-going feel that makes you feel seen and safe. Beyond the cities, many small towns embrace diversity, making it a great spot for couples who want both community and privacy.

What it offers for your elopement: Connecticut offers quiet but stunning scenery. I’m talking the classic New England towns combined with that peaceful coastal stretch along Long Island Sound. You could say your vows on a quiet beach, tucked away in a forest park, or in a cozy village with brick streets and autumn leaves all around. It’s not flashy, but it’s real, intimate, and beautiful.

7. New Jersey

New Jersey is not usually the first place people think about for a scenic elopement, but it sure offers a strong foundation in the LGBTQ+-affirming department. The state has worked hard to foster an inclusive culture, with cities like Jersey City and Asbury Park standing out as hubs for queer life, creativity, and community. You’ll find LGBTQ+-owned businesses, affirming vendors, and events that celebrate queer identity year-round.

What it offers for your elopement: New Jersey’s scenery might surprise you. While it has a beautiful shore, there are also a lot of charming small towns and architecture. The Jersey Shore, for example, offers beaches and boardwalks if you want some ocean breeze with your vows, while spots like the Delaware Water Gap give you more nature with greenery and riverside views.

8. Nevada

Nevada legalized same-sex marriage in 2014 and has since built strong anti-discrimination laws covering employment, housing, and public accommodations. Cities like Las Vegas and Reno have vibrant queer communities with lots of inclusive events and queer-owned businesses. Public opinion is generally supportive, especially in urban areas, which means you can expect an environment where your love is embraced and celebrated.

What it offers for your elopement: Nevada isn’t just about the Strip (although, if that’s your thing, go for it!). If you’re after something more low-key and nature-focused, the state has unique desert landscapes, red rock formations, and mountains. 

9. Oregon

As part of the PNW, Oregon is a top pick for a lot of couples who want a chill spot with absolutely stunning natural backdrops. Same-sex marriage has been legal in Oregon since 2014, and the state offers comprehensive protections against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Portland, Eugene, and other cities are known for their awesome queer communities, inclusive events, and queer-owned businesses. Public opinion is also very supportive, and Oregon’s culture embraces diversity and self-expression.

What it offers for your elopement: Oregon is basically an outdoor lover’s dream. You get everything from coastlines with cliffs and crashing waves to dense, mossy forests with hidden waterfalls. If you’re more into cities, Portland offers progressive attitudes and a lot of cool places to check out.

Read More: The Ultimate Guide to PNW Elopements

10. Maine

Maine legalized same-sex marriage in 2012 and has good protections in place covering housing, employment, and public accommodations. The public opinion is generally positive, especially in coastal towns and cities like Portland and Bar Harbor. The overall energy here is open and supportive, making Maine a good choice for queer couples.

What it offers for your elopement: If you’re picturing an ocean backdrop with rocky shores and quaint lighthouses, Maine delivers all of that and then some. Beyond the coast, you’ll find dense forests, lots of greenery, and picturesque small towns. The fall foliage here is also next-level stunning, and in the winter, snowy landscapes add a cozy, magical feel.

11. Illinois

Illinois legalized same-sex marriage in 2014 and has comprehensive anti-discrimination laws that protect sexual orientation and gender identity. Chicago, the state’s largest city, is known for its lively queer neighborhoods, such as Boystown and Andersonville, with tons of LGBTQ+-owned businesses, events, and community resources.

What it offers for your elopement: If you want an urban elopement with skyline views, Chicago’s got iconic spots like Millennium Park or the lakefront beaches that make for stunning backdrops. For a more nature-focused elopement, Illinois also has beautiful forest preserves and prairies.

12. Minnesota

As someone who calls Minnesota home, I can tell you firsthand—it’s a place where queer love and joy are generally accepted and celebrated (of course, it depends on where you are). Minnesota has long been a leader in the Midwest when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights. 

We legalized same-sex marriage back in 2013, and there are strong anti-discrimination protections statewide. The Twin Cities, especially Minneapolis and St. Paul, have thriving queer communities and tons of inclusive vendors who truly get what it means to celebrate love authentically. Beyond the cities, you’ll find smaller towns that might surprise you with their warmth and openness.

What it offers for your elopement: What doesn’t it offer? We’ve got lakes, bluffs along the Mississippi River, and lots of beautiful parks. The North Shore of Lake Superior is one of my personal favorites. I also love how Minnesota has seasons that truly show off the beauty of change. In the summer, you get warmth and vibrant colors, and in the fall, you get that classic cozy feel. Spring has lots of beautiful blooms, and in the winter, it’s a bit colder with some snow—but that’s also what makes it magical if you can handle the temperature!

Read More: How to Elope in Minnesota

Other LGBTQ+-Friendly States for Queer Couples Eloping

These spots didn’t make the top 12, but they’re still good options for LGBTQ+ couples looking for beautiful places to elope in the United States:

• New Mexico
• California
• Colorado
• Maryland
• New York
• Michigan
• Hawaii
• Pennsylvania

Least LGBTQ+-Friendly States in the U.S.

This isn’t meant to bring down the mood, but it’s important to be honest and upfront: The United States is very divided when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights and acceptance, and it’s important that you know what you’re getting into when you’re planning one of the most meaningful days of your life.

So, yes, there are states where the legal protections, public support, and overall LGBTQ+ climate aren’t quite where they should be. This awareness matters, and being informed helps you make the safest, most joyful choices for your elopement.

States like Florida, Texas, Idaho, Oklahoma, Kentucky, Louisiana, Arkansas, South Carolina, Alabama, Tennessee, and Mississippi consistently rank at the bottom when it comes to LGBTQ+ equality. These states tend to lack comprehensive legal protections against discrimination, may have laws that actively restrict LGBTQ+ rights, and often show lower levels of public support. This can mean that, unfortunately, queer couples might face more subtle (or not-so-subtle) challenges—whether that’s uncomfortable encounters, limited access to affirming vendors, or even barriers in legal recognition and healthcare.

That said, it’s important to remember that not everything is bleak. Within these states, there are pockets of affirming communities. If you’re considering eloping in one of these states, take extra care to research local laws, connect with LGBTQ+-friendly vendors or communities ahead of time, and have a plan for how you want your day to go.

Choosing LGBTQ+-Friendly Elopement Destinations in the U.S.

So, how do you even begin finding a queer-friendly elopement destination in the U.S.? Doing your research can really go a long way. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

1. Know the difference between friendly, accepting, and risky: Some places are ‘friendly and affirming’ — meaning they have visible queer communities, inclusive events, and a general sense of welcome. Others might be ‘accepting’ but not actively supportive — you’re unlikely to face issues, but you may also not feel fully seen. And then there are destinations that are ‘risky,’ where laws, public opinion, or local attitudes can lead to anything from awkward comments to outright discrimination.
2. Use trusted resources for research: You can start with an online search like “most LGBTQ+-friendly U.S. states,” but to dig a little deeper, I recommend resources like Equaldex’s Equality Index, Pew Research Center studies, Movement Advancement Project’s Equality Maps, and the Everywhere is Queer map.
3. Ask people who’ve been there: Nothing beats first-hand experience. Talk to other LGBTQ+ couples, photographers (like me), or vendors who’ve worked in the area before. Ask them what the experience was like, whether they felt safe and welcomed, and if there were any red flags to watch out for. People in the queer community are usually more than happy to share tips, warnings, or even hidden gems you might not find online.

Listen: Tips for LGBTQ+ Couples Travelling

Read More: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your Destination Elopement

Destination Elopements in the United States: Travel Safety Tips

Share Your Location

If you and your partner have location-sharing capabilities, make sure you do this (especially if you’re traveling somewhere new). Whether you’re heading into the mountains for a private ceremony or exploring a new city, it’s also a good idea to keep someone else in your life looped in on your general plans. Share your travel itinerary, lodging info, and ceremony location with a trusted friend or family member.

Gauge Levels of Comfort With Your Partner

Before you even pack your bags, take some time to talk through any concerns or boundaries with your partner. Are there certain situations that might feel uncomfortable? What’s your plan if you encounter any weird energy? Knowing where each other stands on things like PDA, interactions with strangers, and how you’ll introduce yourselves to others can help you avoid tension during your elopement.

Pick a Good Place to Stay

Where you stay matters just as much as where you elope. Look for lodging that’s either explicitly queer-friendly or has solid reviews from LGBTQ+ travelers. Chain hotels usually have high standards. If you decide to go for a private rental (like a cabin, Airbnb, or boutique stay), check the listing for indications of queer-friendliness. If you’re unsure after your search, you can also reach out to the host directly.

Book Activities with Affirming Guides

Planning to go on a guided hike, boat tour, or wine tasting? Do a little digging to find guides and companies that are LGBTQ+ inclusive. A queer-owned business is always a win, but at the very least, look for signs that the experience will be comfortable. A quick scan through reviews or their social media presence usually gives you a good read on whether you’ll be welcomed with open arms.

Protect Your Peace While Planning

Elopement planning is supposed to be fun, but it can also be a bit stressful. When you’re navigating legal logistics and making sure you’re safe and affirmed, it can start to weigh on you, especially if you come across distressing statistics and stories or have stressful encounters when communicating with vendors. If things start to feel overwhelming, give yourself permission to pause. Ask for help. Lean on each other. You deserve support through every part of this journey, and it’s okay to take a break when things feel like too much.

Final Thoughts: Your Elopement Should Feel Like You

At the end of the day, the most important thing about your elopement is that it feels right for you. As I said, this country is full of different landscapes, so there’s something for everyone. Choosing a place that is known to be queer-affirming can also really make or break your experience, which is why it’s important to do your due diligence before planning your entire elopement. 

As a queer elopement photographer who’s lucky enough to witness so many beautiful celebrations, I know how deeply personal this journey is—and how validating it can be when you find the right place to say your vows. If you ever want to talk through destination ideas and ask questions or are ready to book your photographer, I’m here for that! I can’t wait to meet you.

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